I promised Terry Messman, the editor of Street Spirit, I would post three homeless-related pieces on this blog before Friday, just in case he sees fit to publish one or more of them. The first is my post An Incredibly Empty Place. This is the second: something I came up in Berkeley during the summer of 2014. I hope you like it.
My Secret Place
I used to feel really hassled when people would suggest various living situations for me. I usually cringed, as though such environments were completely out of the question — but I didn’t have the guts to explain why. Lately, however, there has been a turn for the better. When I simply state my truth, I find that more often than not, it is accepted. You cannot believe how good it feels to turn to these people and say: “I prefer sleeping outdoors.”
Less and less do I hear them reply: “You’re crazy!” Now maybe this is because I am speaking my truth to people who already know me somewhat — enough to know I’m not exactly bat crazy mad. Naturally, if somebody suspects that there’s still something rationally ticking between my ears, despite the past ten years of near total sleep deprivation, they’re more likely to respect my position. Still, the feeling of finally being able to stand up to somebody who insists I ought to be shooting for a slot in someplace like a long-term psychiatric facility is, in a word, liberating.
When I try to think of living situations that have worked for me better than my current one, the only thing I can think of is when I have had my own lockable space with plenty of ventilation and sufficient electrical power. Even then, if enough of the “wrong people” find out where I live, I will default to sleeping outdoors. Moreover, in any other situation, such as living with roommates, sharing a house or an apartment — or worse yet, living in a homeless shelter, board-and-care, halfway house, or anywhere else that has the ring of “institution” about it — I will eventually default to Homelessness again. Note the use of the word “default.” Over the years, I’ve become more comfortable sleeping alone outdoors, despite the alleged risks, than sleeping indoors and having to deal with there being other people too close to my personal living space.
I recently lasted six days in a “sober living environment,” sharing an attic with three other guys. One of the guys was a crack head who kept the other three of us awake all night, babbling incessantly about nothing. One of the other two men was constantly threatening the crack head to bodily harm. The third man snored at unbelievably high volume. Add to this the factor that my “overhead” in the attic was literally about two feet shorter than I am, six days was about all I could take. I’ll settle for an empty church stairwell any day, thank you.
Shortly after that, I survived four days at the Men’s Shelter. Just didn’t care for the conversation topics, didn’t like the assumption that I must have just gotten out of State Prison or at least be interested in collaborating on some criminal heist of some sort. Not that I’ve never broken a law – I do so every day. But that doesn’t mean that I identify with the criminal mind-set — and I’ll tell you why.
Smoking marijuana ought not to be a crime. But unfortunately, it can lead one to the company of those who commit other crimes if one is not careful. Further reason why marijuana should be legalized, immediately and totally decriminalized, and why personal drug-related issues should be treated as mental health or medical issues, not as criminal issues. Somebody must be making a lot of money filling up our jails with decent people who got popped for some piddly little pot deal. Disgusting, if you ask me.
So – knock on wood — but in my current living space, I sleep well just about every night, nobody ever hassles me, nobody approaches me, nobody wakes me up in the middle of the night to ask for a cigarette lighter — basically nobody knows I’m there. No one knows where I sleep – therefore my privacy is assured. If even one person finds out – word will get around, and I’m screwed.
Screwed — until I find another secret place. Which soon I will. I always do. And isn’t that a good thing? Look at what the Psalmist says: “He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.” Psalm 91:1. Doesn’t that say it all, right there? Where would you rather “dwell?” In the secret place of the Most High, resting in the shadow of the Almighty? Or in a four foot high attic with a crack head?
Granted, it’s pretty weird that this is what a person will do in order to achieve privacy. But it is exactly what I have done. And – it is okay that I have done so. It ‘s my choice. All I need to do is cast aside the social stigma, and make the most of it. Nothing’s perfect in this world anyway. We all have our different sensibilities. The best we can do is to honor the choices of ourselves and others, and to try to get along.
Besides, getting a lot of fresh air is good for you. They say that fresh air contains “negative ions,” which are oxygen atoms charged with an extra electron. They clear the air of dust and pollen, and significantly decrease airborne viruses and bacteria. Barring other factors, people who sleep outdoors are less likely to have respiratory issues, colds and flus, and even asthma. Seriously! The more you can soak in the negative ions, and the less you have to soak in the negative people, the healthier and happier you will be.
June 6, 2014
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